What Excites Us!

Kink, Hospitality & Creating a Sexy Safe Haven with Kathleen Ashford

What happens when a professional Dominatrix turns a luxury B&B into a kinky playground?
In this episode, I chat with Kathleen Ashford, owner of InnThrall, a one-of-a-kind, kink-friendly bed & breakfast tucked away in Pennsylvania. Kathleen is a retired pro Domme who ran the original InnThrall in Seattle and has since reimagined it as a private, luxurious, and incredibly welcoming space for lifestyle players, the kink-curious, or anyone craving a discreet getaway with an indoor pool under the stars.
We talk about her journey from the dungeon to the hospitality world, building a business that blends sensuality with comfort, and what it's like to run a kinky B&B—especially during a pandemic.
Whether you're looking to explore your kinky side or just want a peaceful and private retreat, Kathleen has created something truly special.
🌐 Visit InnThrall.com to book your stay.

Transpersonal Tools for Love and Healing with Erik House

Can psychology and spirituality work together to deepen your relationships and uncover your true needs?
In this episode, I share a beautifully edited conversation with Erik House (he/they), a life and relationship coach, spiritual guide, and healer. We explore the world of transpersonal psychology—what it is, how Erik uses it in his coaching, and how it can support everything from individual healing to navigating complex polyamorous dynamics.
We also dive into the realities of spiritual bypassing, ethics in healing work, energy practices, and how Erik helps folks—whether solo or in polycules and moresomes—identify their unmet needs so they can build the lives and relationships they truly desire.
✨ You’ll hear about:• Transpersonal psychology and how it supports emotional growth• Spiritual bypassing—what it is and how to avoid it• Coaching polyamorous and non-monogamous folks with nuance• Tarot, energy work, and intuitive tools for healing• Erik’s blend of psychology, mysticism, and practical support
Erik holds an MA in Transpersonal Psychology from Sofia University and brings a wealth of training in energy work, including Usui Reiki, Integrated Energy Therapy, and Magical Awakening.
This conversation is deep, tender, and expansive—perfect for anyone curious about healing beyond the surface.Erik’s contact info:Polyamory and CNM Word Searcherik@lovemultipliescoaching.comLovemultipliescoaching.comThe two Wikipedia articles I mentioned at the beginning of the episode: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychosynthesis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TranspersonalWe also Mentioned: Sword of Truth Comic - https://swordscomic.com/comic/LXXV/John Welwood - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_WelwoodLara Bates who wrote The Men Who Hate WomenBell Hooks - An amazing feminist writer

Sensory Wisdom, Sexual Wellness & BDSM with Mama Pistachio

What if your senses held the key to unlocking deeper pleasure and self-understanding?
In this rich and insightful episode, I talk with Angela Locashio—also known as Mama Pistachio—about her unique, intersectional coaching approach that empowers people to reach their goals in life, business, and especially in the bedroom. Angela introduces us to the concept of eight senses (yes, eight!), and shares how understanding sensory processing can help folks—particularly those who are neurodivergent—navigate the world and their sexuality with more ease and self-compassion.
We explore what BDSM is really about, why people are drawn to it, and how to approach it safely and intentionally—especially if you experience the world differently.
✨ In this episode:• How sensory processing shapes intimacy• What BDSM can teach us about consent, trust, and regulation• Tips for navigating sexual wellness as a neurodivergent person• The 8 senses and how they impact your erotic life• Reframing sexuality as part of your full, empowered selfWays to find Angela and other websites discussed: ~Mamapistachio.com~Discord.mamapistachio.com ~The 8 Senses: https://www.mamapistachio.com/blog/the-8-senses ~Autism and sexuality: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11195-020-09624-5 ~Sexuality & Work: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/impact-lgbt-supportive-workplaces/ ~Mobility wall link with a 10% off code: mobilitywall.com/mamapistachioEmily Nagoski’s book Come as you Are is a wonderful resource and a new version is coming out soon, you can learn more about her at https://www.emilynagoski.com/

Unfiltered: A Tell-All with Wanda

What happens when your inner truth doesn’t match the life you're expected to live?
In this second installment of our Tell-All series, I sit down with Wanda—a trans-feminine, kinky individual navigating life with a family who doesn't yet know the full story. We dive into Wanda’s journey of growing up queer in New England, explore what turns them on, and unpack a wide range of sex and sexuality theories that have shaped their understanding of identity and desire.
This conversation is raw, real, and refreshingly unfiltered—we talk kink, queerness, longing, and the beautiful messiness of living a life that doesn’t fit in a box.
✨ What You'll Hear:• What it’s like to live a double life• Growing up queer in a small-town setting• Theories on sexuality, desire, and identity• Kink, power dynamics, and personal exploration• The courage it takes to claim your truth
This episode gets into the nitty-gritty of Wanda’s life and desires—and it’s not one to miss.
If you are interested in being my guest for this type of episode please let me know by sending an email to gwyn@earthlydesire.com
When I said the last thing in the interview I had two very specific things in mind, this poster which hung in my kitchen at the vintage store I owned, (a picture of the Buddha, saying “chill homie, you need to let that shit go”)
https://fakebuddhaquotes.com/chill-homie-you-need-to-let-that-shit-go/
And this meditation that helped me a lot during the same time period
F*ck That: An Honest Meditation- https://youtu.be/92i5m3tV5XY 
You can learn more about me, or become my coaching client at earthlydesire.com
Please answer the question of the week, or send me a question, comment, or story at whatexcites.comMetamorphosis by TopSecretMusicNetwork found on PixabayThe Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 

Sexual Healing as a Path to Wholeness with Nanette Minley

What if sex could be more than just pleasure—what if it could be a source of deep healing?
In this powerful episode, I’m joined by erotic healer and intimacy guide Nanette Minley for a deep and nourishing conversation about sexual healing—what it really is, why it matters, and how it can transform every part of your life.
Nanette works with visionary creators and magical beings to help them reclaim their relationship with their bodies and sexual expression. Together, we unpack how pleasure and healing are intertwined, the importance of energetic alignment in intimacy, and why sex can be a powerful tool for shedding shame and reconnecting with your true self.
✨ Topics We Cover:• What sexual healing actually looks like• Why shame-free pleasure is revolutionary• How your erotic self affects your creative power• The energetics of intimacy (and how to feel them)• Using sex to heal, rather than just perform
Nanette is on a mission to eradicate shame from the realm of sexual wellness—and this conversation is a beautiful step on that path.
Her website is thickmilfbaddie.com
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 
I Think I Started A Trend (Instrumental Mix) by artemisstrong (c) copyright 2007 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/artemisstrong/12517 

The Clitardis – It’s Bigger on the Inside

If you've ever heard the phrase "finding the man in the boat," you know it’s been a punchline for decades. But under the jokes lies a deep misunderstanding of the clitoris—and it's time we got it right.
In this juicy, eye-opening episode of What Excites Us!, host and certified sex coach Gwyn Isaacs takes us on a tour of the Clitardis: the mighty, misunderstood, and mysteriously internal clitoris. We explore its true shape (spoiler: it’s way bigger than we were taught), its vast and varied sensation potential, and how it responds uniquely to different kinds of touch. Every. Single. One.
We unpack common myths (nope, science hasn’t really confirmed that 8,000 nerve endings claim) and explore why most so-called vaginal orgasms are actually clitoral in nature (take that, Freud). Gwyn breaks down anatomy in a way that's smart, funny, and super accessible—even for those who haven’t cracked a sex-ed book since high school.
Plus, there’s discussion about how testosterone affects the clitoris in trans folks, what to know about changes during menopause, how pleasure changes over time, and why you really should talk to your partner(s) about what feels good. Like, often. Like—every time.
Whether you're learning something new, validating your own experience, or just here for the phrase "Brontosaurus wearing a scarf," this episode has something for you.
TLDR: All clits are different. You have to ask. And yes, it really is bigger on the inside.
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
References:
Someone cut out a significant part of me: A woman on what it's like living with female genital mutilation - Found on Firstpost 
https://www.firstpost.com/living/someone-cut-out-a-significant-part-of-me-a-woman-on-what-its-like-living-with-female-genital-mutilation-2049655.html 
Can a woman who has undergone a clitoridectomy attain an orgasm? And what are the long-term psychological affects [sic] of enduring a clitoridectomy? - Quora.com - 6 answers
https://www.quora.com/Can-a-woman-who-has-undergone-a-clitoridectomy-attain-an-orgasm-And-what-are-the-long-term-psychological-affects-of-enduring-a-clitoridectomy
The benefits and disappointments following clitoral reconstruction after female genital cutting: A qualitative interview study from Sweden by Malin Jordal, Hannes Sigurjonsson, Gabriele Griffin, Anna Wahlberg - Found on Plos One
https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0254855
Effect of Tongkat Ali on stress hormones and psychological mood state in moderately stressed subjects by Shawn M Talbott,1 Julie A Talbott,1 Annie George,2 and Mike Pugh3 found at the National Center for Biotechnology Information 
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3669033/
Female genital mutilation from the World Health Organization 
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation 
Increasing Sexual Arousal in Women by Racheal Louise - found on Real Herbs 
https://www.realherbs.com/blogs/articles/increasing-sexual-arousal-in-women 
Psychosocial and sexual aspects of female circumcision
Author links open overlay panel S.Abdel-Azim - from African Journal of Urology - Found on Science Direct 
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1110570413000246
What Is Clitoral Atrophy and How’s It Treated? Medically reviewed by Deborah Weatherspoon, Ph.D., R.N., CRNA — Written by Kimberly Holland - Found on Healthline
https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/clitoral-atrophy
Clitoris - From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris#CITEREFDi_Marino2014 
Le Clitoris - a Short Animated French Film - by Lori Malépart-Traversy
https://vimeo.com/lorimt 
Get Cliterate | Professor Helen O'Connell | TEDxMacRobHS
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMRZF0Eq3vQ 
9 answers to questions about your G-spot you were too afraid to ask by Sara Hendricks - Found on Insider 
https://www.insider.com/g-spot-common-questions-myths-2018-7
What is the clitoris? And where is it? We made a diagram for you by Nicole Telfer, and Clár McWeeney - Found on Clue
https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/what-is-the-clitoris 
Anatomy of the clitoris by Helen E O'Connell 1, Kalavampara V Sanjeevan, John M Hutson Found at on the National Library of Medicine - National Center for Biotechnology Information 
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16145367/ 
The sole function of the clitoris is female orgasm. Is that why it’s ignored by medical science? By Calla Wahlquist - Found at The Guardian 
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/nov/01/the-sole-function-of-the-clitoris-is-female-orgasm-is-that-why-its-ignored-by-medical-science
Clitoral History: A Tale of Love, Loss, and Discovery Found at Nursing Clio 
https://nursingclio.org/2014/03/25/clitoral-history-a-tale-of-love-loss-and-discovery/
Here's How To Find The Clitoris — You Can Thank Us Later by Cory Steig - From Sex School on Refinery 29
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/where-is-the-clit-female-anatomy
You’ve got Nerve:  An abbreviated discussion of the clitoris aka “Clit-story” By Catherine Chavaree - Found at the Mabel Wadsworth Center
https://www.mabelwadsworth.org/2021/02/26/youve-got-nerve-an-abbreviated-discussion-of-the-clitoris-aka-clit-story/
Debunking myths about the clitoris - Myth: 8,000 nerve endings. Jessica Pin Found on Medium.com
https://jessica86.medium.com/debunking-myths-about-the-clitoris-34f34581a6c3
4 Widely Cited Statistics About Sex That Are Actually Fake - by Suzannah Weiss - Found at Kinkly
https://www.kinkly.com/4-widely-cited-statistics-about-sex-that-are-actually-fake/2/17656?fbclid=IwAR1103JUN1Pih1OLiJyzSoaqbjHPOO1OX4ak89kzM2sfECcbqqF07tRXJ_0#rest-of-article
What is Clitoridectomy: Overview, Benefits, and Expected Results Found at docdoc
https://www.docdoc.com/medical-information/procedures/clitoridectomy
Clitoridectomy and Infibulation by Barnes-Dean, Virginia Lee -Found in Cultural Survival Quarterly Magazine
https://www.culturalsurvival.org/publications/cultural-survival-quarterly/clitoridectomy-and-infibulation
Effects of testosterone treatment on clitoral haemodynamics in women with sexual dysfunction by S. Cipriani, E. Maseroli, V. Di Stasi, I. Scavello,T. Todisco, G. Rastrelli, M. Fambrini, F. Sorbi, F. Petraglia, E. A. Jannini, M. Maggi & L. Vignozzi found on - Journal of Endocrinological Investigation 
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40618-021-01598-1Fetal development: Your baby's genitals and urinary system By Kathleen Scogna  Medically reviewed by Judith Venuti, Ph.D., embryologist - Found at BabyCenter
https://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy/your-baby/fetal-development-your-babys-genitals-and-urinary-system_40005752

Bad Sex Advice, Better Conversations: A Chat with Sex Coach Lex

What if talking about sex felt as easy as talking about breakfast? In this episode, I sit down with the witty and wise Sex Coach Lex to explore how powerful communication can transform our sex lives. We dive into the foundations of his coaching work, what helps people actually get where they want to go, and how he supports individuals, couples, polycules, and kinky folks alike. Plus, we get into his brilliantly snarky blog Bad Sex Advice—where cringe-worthy tips go to die and better sex begins. Tune in for laughs, insight, and real talk.
Links discussed or inspired from this conversation:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexcoachlex/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SexCoachLex/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexcoachlex
Website: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/
My Blog, Bad Sex Advice: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/blog/
What is Sensate Focus and How does it work - from the Sexual Medicine Society of Noth Americahttps://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work
Sex Geek Summer Camp is for educators, coaches and others involved in the Sexuality Professional world - https://reidaboutsex.mykajabi.com/I-want-sex-geek-summer-camp-info
Sex Coach U was where both Lex and I trained - https://sexcoachu.com/
Ramit Sethi - https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/
And check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 
Quando  - (Acoustic Guitar)  by JuliusH from Pixabay

Astrology for Love and Sex with Linda River Valente

Stardust & Sexy Times: A Cosmic Bonus Episode
What do your birth chart and your bedroom have in common? More than you think. In this bonus episode, I sit down with the radiant Linda River Valente—astrologer, tarot witch, burlesque queen, and holistic sexuality educator—for a delicious dive into how the stars shape our desires, relationships, and self-understanding. We talk cosmic timing, what’s lighting up the sky right now, and even get a peek at what winter might have in store. Whether you're tuning in during Scorpio season or long after, this one is full of insight, magic, and sparkle. Don’t miss it.
Websites mentioned:Lindarivervalente.netLinda’s Patreon - https://rb.gy/2hs8mcLinda’s Facebook - https://rb.gy/zjndnkA nice article about Saturn’s Return, which includes a link to a list of free places to create your natal chart - https://www.liveabout.com/what-is-the-return-of-saturn-206368
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
All music is used under the creative commons attribution license. The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962

The Enlightened Consent Org. with Ico the Wandering Love Mystic

Business, Pleasure… and Enlightened Consent
Ready to mix a little business with your pleasure? In this juicy episode, I talk with Ico—the Wandering Love Mystic about his upcoming summit for sex and intimacy pros, how to build a soul-aligned practice, and what it really means to co-create consent. We also dive into his work with the Enlightened Consent Foundation, serving kinky, poly, and LGBTQ+ folks who deserve to feel completely seen and wildly loved. Come for the business tips, stay for the heart-expanding magic.
 
Websites mentioned
The Enlightened Consent Foundation - enlightenedconsent.org
Ico’s Coaching and Speaking Site, including his freemium to help you figure out your sexual desires - enlightenedconsent.net
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
All music is used under the creative commons attribution license. The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 
Naughty Marietta by the Victor Herbert Orchestra - Found on the Free Music Archive

Tidbits with Shahn

My friend Shahn and I sit down to chat about some interesting sexual practices, including hentai, The Mangaian peoples' sex education, a discussion about the word fetish, and the flagellation brothels in Victorian London.
Websites mentioned or used of information and inspiration:
https://sexselvesandsociety.wordpress.com/2014/10/03/the-mangaia-experience-a-hands-on-approach-to-sexual-education/
The Wellred Weekly Volume 1 no.3 - https://www.wellredweekly.com/index.php?article=116
A great representation of Rule 34 https://xkcd.com/305/ 
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
All music is under the creative commons attribution license. This week includes The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg and Harmony by PolyPlus, and Future House Sport by Skilsel which was found on Pixabay
The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962