What Excites Us!

Why the War on Prostitution Is a War on Women – with Kaytlin Bailey of The Oldest Profession Podcast

In this fiery and enlightening episode, I sit down with Kaytlin Bailey—comedian, sex worker rights advocate, and the powerful voice behind The Oldest Profession Podcast. We dive into the real impact of SESTA/FOSTA and expose how these laws—disguised as protections—actually endanger and silence sex workers.
Kaytlin shares how Old Pros, the nonprofit she leads, is working to change the narrative around sex work by telling better stories, advocating for decriminalization, and reclaiming history. If you've ever questioned the mainstream story about sex work, this episode will shift your lens.
✨ What you’ll hear:– Why SESTA/FOSTA is more dangerous than it seems– How the criminalization of sex work is deeply rooted in misogyny– What real sex worker advocacy looks like– Simple, tangible ways you can support sex worker rights
🔗 Learn more at oldprosonline.org🎧 And don’t forget to follow The Oldest Profession Podcast wherever you listen!
#SexWorkIsWork #DecriminalizeSexWork #KaytlinBailey #TheOldestProfession #FeministPodcast #SocialJustice #SESTAFOSTA #SexWorkerRights #OldPros #SexPositive

Breaking Orgasm Pressure & Exploring New Pleasure Paths - Gwyn on Bitch You Need to Hear This

In this empowering and sex-positive episode, Katie sits down with certified sex coach Gwyn Isaacs to tackle some of the biggest intimacy challenges couples face today. They dive deep into:
Why orgasm pressure is killing pleasure for so many women
How clitoral stimulation plays a major role (spoiler: 75-85% of women need it!)
Introducing sex toys without bruising male egos
Overcoming toxic masculinity and performance anxiety in the bedroom
How mental blocks, anxiety, and "the brakes" affect sexual desire (hello, Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are)
Mindful sex, breathwork, and practical ways to explore new pleasure pathways
How couples can experiment together and make intimacy fun again
This inclusive, no-shame conversation is for anyone looking to reignite their sex life, communicate better with their partner, and create more connected, satisfying intimacy—no matter your gender, relationship status, or sexual orientation.
Resources Mentioned:
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Gwyn Isaacs’ podcast: What Excites Us
Coaching & Resources: earthlydesire.com

Masturbation, Kink Q&A, and a Life Update: Sex Ed from the Closet

What’s the best way to start masturbating if you’re new? Can you pee inside a partner during sex — and is it safe? In this special solo episode recorded right before and after major surgery, Gwyn shares a personal life update and answers listener questions about self-pleasure, vulva-owner masturbation tips, toys, and advanced kink play like watersports. You’ll also hear behind-the-scenes thoughts about the podcast’s future, plus practical advice on exploring your own pleasure without shame or pressure.
🎧 Topics include:
Beginner’s guide to masturbation for vulva owners
How to create a safe, enjoyable solo exploration ritual
Sex toy recommendations for different desires
Is it safe to pee inside your partner? (Water play & vaginal health considerations)
A candid personal update on surgery, recovery, and what’s next for the show

Menopause Isn’t Just Hot Flashes: Real Talk with Kim Benoy - Symptoms, Solutions & Essential Oils

Did you know perimenopause can start in your 30s — long before most people expect it? In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Kim Benoy, host of Midlife with Courage, to break down what peri- and menopause actually are, how they affect the bodies of people with uteruses, and why it’s about so much more than just hot flashes.
We cover:
The wide range of physical and emotional symptoms (many people don’t realize are related)
How hormone shifts impact daily life
Essential oils that can provide real, immediate relief for some symptoms
Why early awareness is key to navigating this transition with confidence
🎧 Whether you’re approaching midlife, already there, or simply want to be better informed, this episode is packed with supportive information and actionable tips.
Learn more about Kim Benoy and listen to her podcast at midlifewithcourage.com, or find Midlife with Courage on your favorite podcast app.

The Surprising Truth About What Teens Really Want — with Teen Relationship Coach Ask Auntie Julia

What do teens actually need to build healthy relationships — with themselves, their bodies, and others? In this eye-opening episode, I’m joined by Julia Sheldon, also known as Ask Auntie Julia, a Teen Relationship Coach who helps young people feel seen, heard, and supported as they navigate the complex world of relationships and sexuality.
Together, we explore:
How parents can start (and survive) the tough conversations
The real impact of porn on today’s teens
What teenagers wish adults understood
Why Julia is hopeful for the next generation
And so much more
🎧 Whether you're a parent, educator, or simply curious about how to support teens in today’s world, this conversation is packed with insight and actionable advice.
See Velma the Vulva and some adorable pics of Julia at: earthlydesire.com/ep23
Connect with Julia:🌐 askauntiejulia.com📘 Facebook📸 Instagram🎵 TikTok

Using Tarot & Oracle Cards to Spark Sexual Play with Linda River Valente

Want to unlock deeper pleasure and playful exploration in your solo or partnered sex life? In this episode, Linda River Valente reveals how Tarot and Oracle Cards can be powerful tools to guide your sexual play, inspire creativity, and deepen connection — anytime, anywhere.
Episode Description:Linda River Valente returns to What Excites Us to explore the fascinating intersection of Tarot, Oracle Cards, and sexuality. We start by diving into the influence of Venus in Gemini (June 22 - July 17 2022) — a cosmic time ripe for curiosity, communication, and playful connection — but the insights in this episode remain valuable well beyond the transit dates.
Linda, an astrologer, tarot visionary, holistic sexuality educator, witch, and burlesque performer, shares how you can use Tarot and Oracle Cards as intuitive guides for solo self-pleasure and partnered play. Whether you’re new to card reading or a seasoned mystic, this conversation will inspire you to bring more magic, intention, and fun into your sexual experiences.
Learn about Linda’s favorite decks — including the Linestrider Tarot and Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck — and how these tools can open up new pathways of self-discovery and erotic creativity.
✨Connect with Linda River Valente:🌐 lindarivervalente.net📘 Facebook: bit.ly/3nfFtbK💖 Patreon: patreon.com/LindaRiverValente📧 Email: charmed.flow@gmail.com
🔮 Tarot Decks Mentioned:
Linestrider Tarot: siolothompson.com/linestrider-tarot
Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck: thewildunknown.com

The Science of Somatic Sex Education: How Pleasure Heals with Melody Joyce

What if pleasure could actually heal your body and mind? Somatic Sex Educator Melody Joyce breaks down how reconnecting with your body through science-backed techniques can transform your experience of intimacy and well-being. Ready to feel more embodied right now? This episode is for you.
Episode Description:In this powerful episode of What Excites Us, Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Bodyworker Melody Joyce joins me to explore why pleasure is deeply healing — not just emotionally, but physically and neurologically. We break down what somatic sex education really is, how it's rooted in science (not woo), and how reconnecting with your body can transform your life.
Melody shares her personal healing journey and explains how the Vagus nerve, jaw-pelvis connection, and five embodiment tools can help you feel more grounded, present, and alive. You’ll walk away with simple, practical ways to start feeling more embodied today.
We also discuss:
The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin
Sex for One by Betty Dodson
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
✨Connect with Melody Joyce:🌐 bodysouljourney.com📧 bodysouljourney@protonmail.com🔗 Association of Sexological Bodyworkers

Get REAL About Sex: My Framework for More Pleasure & Connection

In this solo episode, I share my personal framework to help you create more satisfying, connected, and enjoyable sexual experiences — and yes, it’s called REAL. We’ll explore how redefining what "sex" means to you can open up new possibilities, why evaluating your desires ahead of time can deepen your connection, how aligning with yourself and your partner(s) fosters trust, and the importance of leaving distractions and expectations behind.I also share a little about my new tattoo (because, of course!), offer you full permission to find your own version of great sex, and give shoutouts to some amazing people who’ve influenced this approach.Whether you're solo, partnered, or exploring, this is a beautiful starting point for building more mindful and satisfying intimacy.
In the episode, I talk about how cheesy I am and my new tattoo that emphasizes that. I offer permission to you, and I reference a few folks who have influenced this discussion. 
To see the tattoo, get the permission slip, or talk back to me please visit the show webpage whatexcitesus.com
Emily Nagoski and her book Come As You Are is available at:https://www.emilynagoski.com/home
Here is the list of reasons some folks have had sexhttps://psychcentral.com/blog/237-reasons-to-have-sex#4
I think this is the episode of the American Sex Podcast with Sunny Megatron that I reference, but really most episodes of this podcast are fantastic, and certainly the ones with Midorihttps://sunnymegatron.com/hotter-negotiation-midori-podcast/https://sunnymegatron.com/category/podcast/
For more about Midorihttps://bit.ly/3z2YsO4
And the video of How to train to Monkey Mindhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4PkrhH-bkpk

Understanding PCOS: Hormones, Health & Hope with The Hormone Dietitian

What is PCOS really—and why aren’t we talking about it more?In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Grove Azzaro, RDN, LD — also known as The Hormone Dietitian — for a deep dive into PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome), one of the most common yet misunderstood conditions affecting vulva owners. We unpack what PCOS actually is, how it impacts fertility, hormones, and overall well-being, and why many people are still struggling to get proper diagnosis and care.Melissa shares insights into the different types of estrogen, how metabolic and hormonal imbalances play a role, and why so many health studies still overlook women and AFAB bodies entirely. Plus, we talk polyps, fibroids, treatment options, and her holistic approach to helping people navigate this complex condition.Whether you have PCOS, suspect you might, or just want to better understand hormones and sexual health, this is a must-listen.
🌿 Find Melissa at thehormonedietitian.com🌿 Follow her on Instagram: @the.hormone.dietitian

Unlocking Pleasure: Extended Orgasm & Deeper Connection with Alicia Davon

What if better sex and deeper connection were just one practice away?In this episode, Alicia Davon of PleasureCourse.com shares the secrets behind extended orgasm — a powerful, accessible practice that can increase pleasure, intimacy, and emotional connection for couples and individuals. We explore how to reignite passion, navigate mismatched libidos, and build long-term sexual satisfaction. Whether you're looking to spice up your sex life, deepen your relationships, or simply expand your pleasure potential, this conversation is packed with actionable insights. Learn more at PleasureCourse.com or follow Alicia and Erwan on Instagram @davonmethod.