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The Clitardis – It’s Bigger on the Inside

If you've ever heard the phrase "finding the man in the boat," you know it’s been a punchline for decades. But under the jokes lies a deep misunderstanding of the clitoris—and it's time we got it right.
In this juicy, eye-opening episode of What Excites Us!, host and certified sex coach Gwyn Isaacs takes us on a tour of the Clitardis: the mighty, misunderstood, and mysteriously internal clitoris. We explore its true shape (spoiler: it’s way bigger than we were taught), its vast and varied sensation potential, and how it responds uniquely to different kinds of touch. Every. Single. One.
We unpack common myths (nope, science hasn’t really confirmed that 8,000 nerve endings claim) and explore why most so-called vaginal orgasms are actually clitoral in nature (take that, Freud). Gwyn breaks down anatomy in a way that's smart, funny, and super accessible—even for those who haven’t cracked a sex-ed book since high school.
Plus, there’s discussion about how testosterone affects the clitoris in trans folks, what to know about changes during menopause, how pleasure changes over time, and why you really should talk to your partner(s) about what feels good. Like, often. Like—every time.
Whether you're learning something new, validating your own experience, or just here for the phrase "Brontosaurus wearing a scarf," this episode has something for you.
TLDR: All clits are different. You have to ask. And yes, it really is bigger on the inside.
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
References:
Someone cut out a significant part of me: A woman on what it's like living with female genital mutilation - Found on Firstpost 
https://www.firstpost.com/living/someone-cut-out-a-significant-part-of-me-a-woman-on-what-its-like-living-with-female-genital-mutilation-2049655.html 
Can a woman who has undergone a clitoridectomy attain an orgasm? And what are the long-term psychological affects [sic] of enduring a clitoridectomy? - Quora.com - 6 answers
https://www.quora.com/Can-a-woman-who-has-undergone-a-clitoridectomy-attain-an-orgasm-And-what-are-the-long-term-psychological-affects-of-enduring-a-clitoridectomy
The benefits and disappointments following clitoral reconstruction after female genital cutting: A qualitative interview study from Sweden by Malin Jordal, Hannes Sigurjonsson, Gabriele Griffin, Anna Wahlberg - Found on Plos One
https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0254855
Effect of Tongkat Ali on stress hormones and psychological mood state in moderately stressed subjects by Shawn M Talbott,1 Julie A Talbott,1 Annie George,2 and Mike Pugh3 found at the National Center for Biotechnology Information 
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Female genital mutilation from the World Health Organization 
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation 
Increasing Sexual Arousal in Women by Racheal Louise - found on Real Herbs 
https://www.realherbs.com/blogs/articles/increasing-sexual-arousal-in-women 
Psychosocial and sexual aspects of female circumcision
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https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1110570413000246
What Is Clitoral Atrophy and How’s It Treated? Medically reviewed by Deborah Weatherspoon, Ph.D., R.N., CRNA — Written by Kimberly Holland - Found on Healthline
https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/clitoral-atrophy
Clitoris - From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris#CITEREFDi_Marino2014 
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https://vimeo.com/lorimt 
Get Cliterate | Professor Helen O'Connell | TEDxMacRobHS
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMRZF0Eq3vQ 
9 answers to questions about your G-spot you were too afraid to ask by Sara Hendricks - Found on Insider 
https://www.insider.com/g-spot-common-questions-myths-2018-7
What is the clitoris? And where is it? We made a diagram for you by Nicole Telfer, and Clár McWeeney - Found on Clue
https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/what-is-the-clitoris 
Anatomy of the clitoris by Helen E O'Connell 1, Kalavampara V Sanjeevan, John M Hutson Found at on the National Library of Medicine - National Center for Biotechnology Information 
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The sole function of the clitoris is female orgasm. Is that why it’s ignored by medical science? By Calla Wahlquist - Found at The Guardian 
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Clitoral History: A Tale of Love, Loss, and Discovery Found at Nursing Clio 
https://nursingclio.org/2014/03/25/clitoral-history-a-tale-of-love-loss-and-discovery/
Here's How To Find The Clitoris — You Can Thank Us Later by Cory Steig - From Sex School on Refinery 29
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/where-is-the-clit-female-anatomy
You’ve got Nerve:  An abbreviated discussion of the clitoris aka “Clit-story” By Catherine Chavaree - Found at the Mabel Wadsworth Center
https://www.mabelwadsworth.org/2021/02/26/youve-got-nerve-an-abbreviated-discussion-of-the-clitoris-aka-clit-story/
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Bad Sex Advice, Better Conversations: A Chat with Sex Coach Lex

What if talking about sex felt as easy as talking about breakfast? In this episode, I sit down with the witty and wise Sex Coach Lex to explore how powerful communication can transform our sex lives. We dive into the foundations of his coaching work, what helps people actually get where they want to go, and how he supports individuals, couples, polycules, and kinky folks alike. Plus, we get into his brilliantly snarky blog Bad Sex Advice—where cringe-worthy tips go to die and better sex begins. Tune in for laughs, insight, and real talk.
Links discussed or inspired from this conversation:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexcoachlex/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SexCoachLex/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexcoachlex
Website: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/
My Blog, Bad Sex Advice: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/blog/
What is Sensate Focus and How does it work - from the Sexual Medicine Society of Noth Americahttps://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work
Sex Geek Summer Camp is for educators, coaches and others involved in the Sexuality Professional world - https://reidaboutsex.mykajabi.com/I-want-sex-geek-summer-camp-info
Sex Coach U was where both Lex and I trained - https://sexcoachu.com/
Ramit Sethi - https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/
And check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 
Quando  - (Acoustic Guitar)  by JuliusH from Pixabay

Astrology for Love and Sex with Linda River Valente

Stardust & Sexy Times: A Cosmic Bonus Episode
What do your birth chart and your bedroom have in common? More than you think. In this bonus episode, I sit down with the radiant Linda River Valente—astrologer, tarot witch, burlesque queen, and holistic sexuality educator—for a delicious dive into how the stars shape our desires, relationships, and self-understanding. We talk cosmic timing, what’s lighting up the sky right now, and even get a peek at what winter might have in store. Whether you're tuning in during Scorpio season or long after, this one is full of insight, magic, and sparkle. Don’t miss it.
Websites mentioned:Lindarivervalente.netLinda’s Patreon - https://rb.gy/2hs8mcLinda’s Facebook - https://rb.gy/zjndnkA nice article about Saturn’s Return, which includes a link to a list of free places to create your natal chart - https://www.liveabout.com/what-is-the-return-of-saturn-206368
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
All music is used under the creative commons attribution license. The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962

The Enlightened Consent Org. with Ico the Wandering Love Mystic

Business, Pleasure… and Enlightened Consent
Ready to mix a little business with your pleasure? In this juicy episode, I talk with Ico—the Wandering Love Mystic about his upcoming summit for sex and intimacy pros, how to build a soul-aligned practice, and what it really means to co-create consent. We also dive into his work with the Enlightened Consent Foundation, serving kinky, poly, and LGBTQ+ folks who deserve to feel completely seen and wildly loved. Come for the business tips, stay for the heart-expanding magic.
 
Websites mentioned
The Enlightened Consent Foundation - enlightenedconsent.org
Ico’s Coaching and Speaking Site, including his freemium to help you figure out your sexual desires - enlightenedconsent.net
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
All music is used under the creative commons attribution license. The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 
Naughty Marietta by the Victor Herbert Orchestra - Found on the Free Music Archive

Tidbits with Shahn

My friend Shahn and I sit down to chat about some interesting sexual practices, including: hentai, The Mangaian peoples' sex education, a discussion about the word fetish, and the flagellation brothels in Victorian London.
Websites mentioned or used for information and inspiration:
https://sexselvesandsociety.wordpress.com/2014/10/03/the-mangaia-experience-a-hands-on-approach-to-sexual-education/
The Wellred Weekly Volume 1 no.3 - https://www.wellredweekly.com/index.php?article=116
A great representation of Rule 34 https://xkcd.com/305/ 
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
All music is under the creative commons attribution license. This week includes The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg and Harmony by PolyPlus, and Future House Sport by Skilsel which was found on Pixabay
The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962

Tell All with E - Her Kinky Polyam Dreams are Coming True

This show is the first in our series of Tell-All episodes, where we get the salacious details about someone's personal sex life. In this one, E shares about how all her polyamorous, kinky, dreams seem to be coming true. She tells us about her non-traditional family and home life, the ways things are changing and even her favorite piece of furniture and why it’s called a slave desk. 
If you would like to do a tell-all episode with me, or have other things to share that may be helpful to others, please get in touch. An easy way to do that is to go to the website, whatexcitesus.com, and click the Start Recording button. You will have several minutes to pitch a story, or respond to the question of the week. I would love for you to be a part of the conversation by asking a question, leaving a comment, or telling a story to air. This can all be done anonymously, but of course if you want to do an episode I do need to be able to get back to you.  Of course you could also send me an email at gwyn@earthlydesire.com. 
Articles I viewed for inspiration or information for this episode:
Demystifying the Types of Polyamorous Relationships: Learning the lingo of multiple partners, by Rachael Hope found on medium.com
https://medium.com/polyamory-today/demystifying-the-types-of-polyamorous-relationships-f338c4d584df
Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/
All music is under the creative commons attribution license. This week includes The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg and Harmony by PolyPlus. 
The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode
Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 

Introducing What Excites Us!

Welcome to the very first episode of What Excites Us, a show about sex, sexuality, and all the deliciously complicated ways humans experience desire. I’m your host, Gwyn Isaacs—certified intimacy coach, pleasure educator, lifelong kink-curious nerd, and former confused human who thought something was “wrong” with her sexually… until she realized it absolutely wasn’t.
This episode sets the tone for everything this podcast is going to be: curious, shame-free, conversational, a little nerdy, and very real. I share why I created this show, why the word normal needs to be tossed in the trash, and how consent—not morality—sets the line between okay and not okay. We also kick off our first Question of the Week, hear from real humans answering “How do you define sex?”, and dig into why the definition matters way more than most of us were ever taught.
You’ll hear about:
Why “almost everything” is okay… and what the one hard line actually is
How expanding the definition of sex can transform pleasure, relationships, and even conversations about cheating
The cultural shame most of us grew up with (and why none of it’s your fault)
Why “vanilla” is not an insult (and why basics are sexy as hell)
One simple thing you can do today to have better sex with your partner
How to send in your questions, stories, confessions, or curiosity for future episodes
Plus: a quick ad break from our sex-positive podcast cousin, Good Girls Talk About Sex, and a listener question about whether sex is actually good for your body (spoiler: yes, science says it is).
If you’ve ever wondered “Am I normal?” — this show exists so you can finally exhale and say, “Oh… I’m not alone.”
✨ Want to join the convo?
You can leave anonymous voice messages, ask questions, or pitch a story at WhatExcitesUs.comOr email me anytime: gwyn@earthlydesire.com